April 24, 2019
Everyone needs “alone time”. This is time to recharge your batteries, appreciate the quiet and not have people in your face asking for things. I like this time. Honestly, I used to absolutely hate quiet time because I didn’t like to be alone with my thoughts. These days, I appreciate it a lot more. I can relax, color and read in peace, among other things.
CREATING SPACE FOR YOURSELF
Besides the quiet and lack of demands from others, there are other benefits. Being alone can be relaxing, allow for time to reflect on your current situation in life and maybe even focus on hobbies and get things done. You can also do what you want, not just what someone else wants to do or have to come to some sort of compromise.
Not everyone is happy with the idea of alone time. Many extroverts are not into the idea, because they thrive on being around others. I hang out with a lot of extroverts. It is important, even if this is you because everyone needs to be alone sometimes, just to get away from the noise. It’s okay to need time to yourself.
Some ideas to ease yourself into alone time are:
- taking short walks
- trying a new workout class- without taking a friend
- sign up for volunteer work
- go to a bookstore/window-shop
For those of us who have had some practice with being by ourselves and actually liking it, here are some advanced ideas:
- Go to a yoga class. I go to a class every Sunday. It’s recovery-based and I love it. I was very nervous about it at first, but my anxiety has lessened a lot. I sat next to someone last week and she actually thanked me for sitting with her. Wow.
- Have a solo picnic.
- People watch- at a coffee shop, in a park, wherever you feel comfortable.
- Go to a movie by yourself.
- Try an evening class.
If you want to go for the extreme:
- Take a road trip.
- Go to a concert alone.
- Go hiking.
- Start a home renovation project.
- Go to a meditation or yoga retreat.
Have I tried any of these ideas? Sure. Not all of them. I’m a work in progress, so some of these are definitely on my to-do list. I’ve always liked to people watch, but it’s always been more fun to do it with someone else. I would like to try that one soon. I live near a large park so there are always people to watch.
TIME FOR YOU IS GOOD TIME
It may be hard to squeeze in the time for yourself, but it is necessary. It may mean walking to the bus stop on a sunny day to get your kids, but you’ll have those 10 minutes of a good walk. Walking is exercise and a way to clear your mind a bit. It’s a two-for-one deal. A whole day isn’t possible for everyone, so don’t feel guilty for the time you can’t give to yourself.
When you’ve had time to yourself, you feel refreshed. You feel ready to face the next challenge ahead. Who doesn’t want to feel like that? It’s a nice feeling. If you’ve had your nails, hair or toes done, you look better. That’s also a great boost.
This isn’t meant to encourage living a life of solitude unless you really want to, but to encourage time to yourself so that you can breathe. You can get to know yourself a bit better. What do you like doing? How do you want to spend your time?
Do you have ideas to add for the list of ideas of things to do alone? Leave them in the comments!
About the Author:
Wrae is a parenting/mental health blogger in Louisville, KY. She has a BA
in Clinical Psychology and a decade in mental health work experience.
Wrae has worked with bloggers such as Brynn of “The Mama on the
Rocks”, the sisters behind Life Is Worth Living” and has been published on
Mental Health Talk.
When she is not writing, she enjoys reading, true crime podcasts, and
movies. She is married and has three children.
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