Worry, fear, anxiety–a choking sense of doom comes out of nowhere and a dark cloud descends on my mind. Anxiety is the icy fingers of dread resting on my shoulder. It is manifested in the way I snap at my loved ones for no apparent reason. It is embodied by the swirling cycle of “what if’s” fueling my insomnia. Anxiety is the physical symptoms of gastrointestinal discomfort, sweating, fatigue, and muscle tension. It is a constant thief of joy and destroyer of peace. However, it doesn’t have to be. There is hope. There are many anxiety coping strategies that you can learn.
It’s almost that time again. Yes, Mother’s Day is quickly approaching and you might be wondering what the perfect way to celebrate the woman in your life would be. We should be appreciating our moms every day of the year but we just get used to everything our moms do for us that we forget to appreciate and thank them for all their efforts day in and day out. That’s why it’s nice that there’s a day dedicated to our super women.
You might be thinking about splurging on all kinds of awesome stuff (and go ahead and do that too because why not) but I’m here to spill the tea. Here’s my confessions of life as a new mom and what I really want this Mother’s Day. I’m sure all or most over-worked and over-tired mums everywhere can relate. Here’s my list of 10 things to make this Mother’s Day perfect.
Everyone needs “alone time”. This is time to recharge your batteries, appreciate the quiet and not have people in your face asking for things. I like this time. Honestly, I used to absolutely hate quiet time because I didn’t like to be alone with my thoughts. These days, I appreciate it a lot more. I can relax, color and read in peace, among other things.
It will be almost impossible to find someone without stress. It affects our everyday lives and creates a huge impact on our daily habits. It’s very common to develop negative habits as a way to cope with daily stress and disappointments. Some drown their sorrows in food or alcohol, others numb themselves in front of the television or complain endlessly to friends without making any effort to change their situation.
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Everyone wants to be happy, yet happiness can sometimes be hard to find. In my long search for happiness, I’ve come to learn that happiness is a choice that we get to make every day. Some may not agree with me but finding happiness truly is a choice because, on a spiritual level, happiness is always available to us.
But in order to make that choice…to choose happiness above all else, it takes a lot of consistent daily work. Work that will change your mindset, remove your limiting beliefs, bring you more peace, and lead you to a more positive and happy life.
Some of us choose not to do the work because we don’t know we have that option. Some of us choose to not do the work because it’s easier to stay in the pain. But because you, my friend, have found yourself on this blog post, you are not one of those people.
You are ready to find your happiness. You are ready to work towards it every day because you know it’s possible and I’m ready to share all my happiness tips with you. Like I’ve said before, I’ve been on my own journey to find happiness for a really long time. And I feel like I know a thing or two about this whole happiness thing. Let’s get started.
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How To Find Happiness Within Yourself
We’ve already established that 1. Happiness is always available to us and 2. It takes daily consistent work to get there. So next I am going to share with you some of the life-changing daily habits I personally have adapted into my life to maintain my positivity and increase my happiness.
Remember that finding happiness is different for everyone and what has worked for me may not work for you. But as you begin your journey toward finding happiness from within, you should remain open to trying different things until you find what works for you.
Be sure that whatever habits you choose you will be able to implement them consistently. Otherwise, they won’t become habits and they definitely won’t make a lasting life change for you.
After a few days or weeks of implementing these daily habits for happiness, you may find a big improvement in how you are feeling. Symptoms may include: radiant positivity, inspiring confidence, comforting peace, and joyful happiness (just a name a few.)
The Daily Habits
There’s been a big misconception that meditation is only for spiritual people likes monks and yoga fanatics. But meditation is for anyone and everyone who is willing to give it a try.
Your brain is consumed with racing thoughts all day long. Some thoughts are positive, but most thoughts are negative. If your mind is constantly filled with negative thoughts, your reality will reflect that. But a mind filled with loving and positive thoughts will bring the same in return.
If you want to change your thoughts from negative to positive, YOU SHOULD REALLY GET YOUR MEDITATION ON.
Meditation will teach you to quiet your mind and separate yourself from those negative thoughts that keep you from having more happiness in your life. Although meditation isn’t the easiest thing to do, with time and practice it gets much easier.
As you grow in your meditation practice, you will learn to witness your thoughts as they arise and then quickly release them before they can affect your day. Now doesn’t that sound nice?
Making meditation a daily habit for happiness can literally change your whole life. Not only will it increase your happiness but some of the other meditation benefits include:
Another easy way to increase your daily happiness is to use positive affirmations on the daily!
What are affirmations you say? It’s simple. Positive Affirmations are just words you tell yourself, on repeat, about the way you would like to be.
“I AM” phrases or mantras such as, “I am loved” and “I am happy” are simple words you can say to yourself on a daily basis. As you recite these affirmations daily, they begin to sink into your subconscious brain rewiring your old limiting beliefs and thoughts. Then these affirmations slowly become your new truth.
I know that sounds crazy buts it’s real, it works, and it’s completely magical. Never underestimate the power of positive affirmations!
A few easy ways to make a habit out of positive affirmations:
Recite them while driving using Youtube videos to guide you. Another idea is to recite them while you shower. Weird but it works, trust me!
Journaling is a great way to increase your happiness, as it can be very therapeutic to get all your thoughts and feelings out on paper. It can also help you relate differently to your not so good thoughts and feelings and thus take away their power over you.
There are many different ways to practice journaling. From prayer journaling to gratitude journaling to good old fashion journaling, the method you choose is up to you.
But if you’re feeling spicy you should totally go with this one! #ZenAF
Find what works best for you and make journaling a part of your daily habits for happiness routine. You can learn more about the different types of journaling HERE.
5 minute manifesting
This daily habit is a sure fire way to amp up your positive vibrations and improve your happiness. Manifesting is a process used to call anything you could dream of into your life. It is done so using the law of attraction.
The idea is that when you focus on something that you desire, you activate a vibration toward it, and then like a magnet, it starts to make its way to you. LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE.
Using this concept, it would be very beneficial for you to take 5 minutes out of your day, every day, and think about what it is that you desire.
There is a process to this and it involves more than just thinking about what you want. You gotta lean into the feeling as though you already have it. You can do this by tuning into the happiness that your desire would bring you.
So basically just sit down and DREAM BIG! Those big dreams will bring you many happy thoughts and you will be attracting those dreams right to you at the same time!
Don’t try to go at this alone, my dear. Listen to the experts and teachers that have gone before you. You can learn from the best and grow as a person by listening to podcasts, reading books or blogs, watching youtube videos, or any other way you can expand your knowledge and improve your mindset.
This one taught me how to follow my bliss and manifest anything I want in my life using the law of attraction.
Implementing and Accountability
If you truly want to know how to find happiness within yourself, you have to implement some accountability. Without the accountability factor, you will most likely plan to begin these habits for daily happiness and you might even stick to it for a few days.
But most likely, you will end up quitting your daily happiness routine and fall back into a negative mindset. DON’T LET THAT HAPPEN.
Making a lasting change takes practice and a routine that you do over and over until it becomes a habit. Then and only then will you see results. To help you along the way, I created a calendar & checklist that will help you track your daily habits and keep you accountable.
Print it out every month and post it where you’ll see it every day. As you go thru the month, check off each practice as you complete it. At the end of the month, take note of your newfound happiness and celebrate your progress!
Check out Girl Unfinished’s Spiritual Practice Calendar & Checklist on her website HERE
About the Author:
Tammi Solis is a self care and spiritual lifestyle blogger and influencer. She’s is the creator of Girl Unfinished, an online community that teaches women how to navigate their unfinished life thru spiritual principles, mindset work, and self care practices.
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If you’re a blogger, business owner, or some combination of the two, you’ve undoubtedly felt the pressures of increasing workloads and imminent deadlines.
But how does one handle these day-to-day stresses in the face of mental health issues like anxiety or depression? Or, as can often be the case, what should one do if work is the cause of anxiety and depression?
Today I want to get serious about a subject that is incredibly personal and has impacted and changed my life completely. I want to talk about suicide and how to cope after someone who you care for takes their life.
How do you navigate through that gut punch that leaves a hole in your core? How can you support yourself and also those around you? Suicide affects us all and doesn’t care about your skin color, how much money you have, or how good of a childhood that you had. It is unbiased about who it affects and does care about the unanswered questions that it leaves behind.
I’ve always dreaded the winter months, literally since I can remember. The thought of it getting colder, wetter and darker just makes me want to hibernate.
I first remember feeling the dread of winter back at high school, when you’d look outside the classroom window and it was already getting dark before the final bell. The thought of walking home in the dark would make me want to stay at school! Even worse than the dark evenings, was the terribly cold and miserable mornings. I would find it almost unbearable to drag myself out of bed, which I and other people around me usually put down to me just being lazy!
However, I barely slept under normal circumstances. So being able to sleep for hours and hours, especially during the day was a little unusual. I would tend to feel very down, grumpy and irritable throughout the colder months. I also started to notice I had very little to no energy, which again felt unusual as I was sleeping a lot more than I ever normally would.
It took a really difficult winter, during my first year of university, for me to think about seeing a doctor. In all honesty I thought they were going to send me away and say I was just being a moody teenager, who likes her sleep when it’s cold outside. However, how wrong I was, surprisingly! The doctor asked me a variety of questions, ranging from my general eating pattern, my exercise routine, to my feelings during seasonal shifts. In the end, I was diagnosed with Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD for short, ironic huh!?
Seasonal Affective Disorder
When I told my friends and family, they all seemed to suspect something similar, little did I realise how much my behaviour and mood was apparent to those around me. I started to change my habits during winter. I would try and go to sleep at a reasonable time to make sure I knew I was getting a good amount of sleep. I’d also make sure to wake up at the same time each morning, trying to get myself into a pattern, which started to become a habit and helped my body get used to waking up at a certain time. My doctor told me how important it was to be outside during times when it was daylight. So during university I used to try and study or read outside when the weather permitted.
Another SAD treatment, which has been hugely important for me, was light therapy. I was given an amazing present, a Lumie Bodyclock Starter which helps wake you up with a natural, gradually brightening light. It also does this in reverse with a sunset option, when the light slowly dims from your chosen time.
It’s still not fully understood what causes SAD or why some people experience it and others don’t. Although, it has been suggested that certain people are more vulnerable to SAD than others, due to their genes, as it has appeared to run in families. Like any diagnoses it can be a little scary to think you’re labelled with a disorder. I was definitely taken aback when my doctor told me. However, I’ve learnt it’s all about knowledge and management.
The reassuring thing is that there has now been lots of research done into trying to find ways of helping. That’s why I cannot stress enough how important it is to go and speak to a doctor if you think this may be something that is affecting you. Without speaking about things, you may never know any different and could be missing out on being able to feel so much better than you do now.
I spent my Sunday evening dreading the week ahead and I woke up this morning dreading getting out of bed. However, I eased myself into the very dark morning with my Lumie light and made myself a comforting cuppa tea. I’ll be making sure to eat healthy today and do some exercise before getting an early night. It’s time to start learning what works for you, and doing it, to start to feel more like you!
If you’re concerned or even just curious to find out a little more about SAD, please take a look at the NHS website and Click Here.
This is part two of the #WellnessWednesday Blogger series. This week’s topic is Seasonal Affective Disorder from the perspective of Sophia Garner.
About the Author:
Cuppa tea with Soph is written by Sophia; a twenty-something, animal loving, pasta eating, ale drinking, petite Northern girl.
She is obsessed with animals; fluffy, prickly, scaley and anything in between. She’s determined to have a farm by the time she retires, whether the Hubby is in agreeance or not. She currently has two pooches: Vixie and Akira. Also, she has a guinea pig: Cashew, two twin kitty-kats: Nala and Simba, AND 10 fishies. (I won’t list all their names, don’t worry)!